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V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:28 amOr you will produce a fanny, be pussy whipped yourself and slide into the realisation that you simply are a vessel of sperm and your testicles are really hers to control while you operate as bank of Dad.

Well I can assure you, and all of you, that that ain't fucking happening

JLv3.0 wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:35 am

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:28 amOr you will produce a fanny, be pussy whipped yourself and slide into the realisation that you simply are a vessel of sperm and your testicles are really hers to control while you operate as bank of Dad.

Well I can assure you, and all of you, that that ain't fucking happening

Famous last words.

Oh you can all trust me on this one.

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:30 am

DeskJockey wrote: Thu Apr 04, 2019 6:58 pm Can recognise the friends issue. Been in the UK 10 years and although we've got lots of good friends, they're all from my wife's childhood. I've not managed to find many.

Best one f*cked off home to Oz and another just stopped communicating. According to his wife he's just very busy. I stopped trying after a year.

Some of you, especially those I've met in person, mean something to me and have at times been a way out of feeling isolated. Someone that knows you to some extent.

I've got a couple of good guys at work, but as we're hundreds of miles apart, it is mostly talking and with upcoming changes (team is being TUPEd, I'm trying to find another role) that may prove to be too much to keep it working.

<runs over to Alex to give him a hug>

You are possibly the only person on here I have massively different viewpoints on that I wouldn’t end up burying in the garden aftr a night on the beer

Dave!

I'll take that compliment. Better be a bear hug though!

I see the “wrapped in cotton wool” thing at nursery sometimes when I pick my little boy up, they’ll apologise that he’s covered in mud or has a bruise or something, as if I’d be angry at them! My usual response is something like “cool, that means he’s been having fun - plenty more to come!”

With the whole “meeting friends” thing, it is difficult as an adult. Some company’s are clearly set up for integrating new team members socially, some just aren’t.

I think the only real way is through a hobby/club. Most of my “new” friends have come through mountain biking. -I’m not in any club, we just end up chatting to people and eventually they become part of the group. Though if it was reversed I’m not sure if I’d know how to be that person integrating with my group!

The best thing about hobby-related friends is you never talk about work. I'm not someone who hates my job so much that I can't stand talking about it - it's just not interesting to me to do so on my time off, and I don't really care about other people's jobs. But yes - I don't know how I would handle being the person trying to integrate into a new group these days!

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:28 am

JLv3.0 wrote: Wed Apr 03, 2019 10:44 am If that one thing in common is babies, i.e. theirs and not mine, they can get fucked

Oh this changes and changes quickly

You end up on playdates,

Fvck. That.

Swervin_Mervin wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:00 am

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:28 am

JLv3.0 wrote: Wed Apr 03, 2019 10:44 am If that one thing in common is babies, i.e. theirs and not mine, they can get fucked

Oh this changes and changes quickly

You end up on playdates,

Fvck. That.

You work at it and you get the upgraded version of sending them somewhere else on playdates.

Swervin_Mervin wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:00 am

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:28 am

JLv3.0 wrote: Wed Apr 03, 2019 10:44 am If that one thing in common is babies, i.e. theirs and not mine, they can get fucked

Oh this changes and changes quickly

You end up on playdates,

Fvck. That.

I had the best BBQ I’ve ever eaten on a play date

Dave!

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:30 am

DeskJockey wrote: Thu Apr 04, 2019 6:58 pm Can recognise the friends issue. Been in the UK 10 years and although we've got lots of good friends, they're all from my wife's childhood. I've not managed to find many.

Best one f*cked off home to Oz and another just stopped communicating. According to his wife he's just very busy. I stopped trying after a year.

Some of you, especially those I've met in person, mean something to me and have at times been a way out of feeling isolated. Someone that knows you to some extent.

I've got a couple of good guys at work, but as we're hundreds of miles apart, it is mostly talking and with upcoming changes (team is being TUPEd, I'm trying to find another role) that may prove to be too much to keep it working.

<runs over to Alex to give him a hug>

You are possibly the only person on here I have massively different viewpoints on that I wouldn’t end up burying in the garden aftr a night on the beer

Dave!

Alex is a genuinely lovely human being.

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:09 am

Swervin_Mervin wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:00 am

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:28 am

Oh this changes and changes quickly

You end up on playdates,

Fvck. That.

I had the best BBQ I’ve ever eaten on a play date

Dave!

Bear was distracted by food

NotoriousREV wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:24 am

V8Granite wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:30 am

DeskJockey wrote: Thu Apr 04, 2019 6:58 pm Can recognise the friends issue. Been in the UK 10 years and although we've got lots of good friends, they're all from my wife's childhood. I've not managed to find many.

Best one f*cked off home to Oz and another just stopped communicating. According to his wife he's just very busy. I stopped trying after a year.

Some of you, especially those I've met in person, mean something to me and have at times been a way out of feeling isolated. Someone that knows you to some extent.

I've got a couple of good guys at work, but as we're hundreds of miles apart, it is mostly talking and with upcoming changes (team is being TUPEd, I'm trying to find another role) that may prove to be too much to keep it working.

<runs over to Alex to give him a hug>

You are possibly the only person on here I have massively different viewpoints on that I wouldn’t end up burying in the garden aftr a night on the beer

Dave!

Alex is a genuinely lovely human being.

This. And I too probably have polar opposite views to Alex on many things!

I never knew Alex was so controversial

JLv3.0 wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:53 am I never knew Alex was so controversial

I think it's the fact that Alex is so articulate and intelligent that we tolerate his funny leftie ways.

Alex and Mrs Alex are absolutly lovely, even if Mrs Alex prodded me in my necrotic appendix the first time we met. His kids are lovely too. You know how other people's kids are awful? His aren't!

Jimmy Choo wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:17 am

JLv3.0 wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:53 am I never knew Alex was so controversial

I think it's the fact that Alex is so articulate and intelligent that we tolerate his funny leftie ways.

Alex and Mrs Alex are absolutly lovely, even if Mrs Alex prodded me in my necrotic appendix the first time we met. His kids are lovely too. You know how other people's kids are awful? His aren't!

The prodding was self inflicted, Mrs Choo asked her to do it. I think the outcome was worth it though.

Like most children mine are angelic when we're out. Less so when I was sat up with the littlest one for several hours last night as she screamed her head off for no discernable reason.

As for the rest of the comments, thank you all very much. It warms my heart. You're all good too, even if some of you are righties with odd views.

Jimmy Choo wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:17 am

JLv3.0 wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 10:53 am I never knew Alex was so controversial

I think it's the fact that Alex is so articulate and intelligent that we tolerate his funny leftie ways.

Alex and Mrs Alex are absolutly lovely, even if Mrs Alex prodded me in my necrotic appendix the first time we met. His kids are lovely too. You know how other people's kids are awful? His aren't!

+1 to this. They played in the front of the 911 for ten minutes (his kids, not Mr and Mrs Alex ) and as far as I'm aware the worst thing they did was readjust an air vent. My son by comparison usually has reset the trip meter, adjusted the clock and put dirty footprints all over the seats within 30 seconds.

Frankly the only thing that annoys me about Alex is he speaks and writes English betterer than I does

DeskJockey wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:29 am The prodding was self inflicted, Mrs Choo asked her to do it. I think the outcome was worth it though.

Not being dead is rather good and I highly recommend it. I don't recommend either having or being prodded in your necrotic appendix.

I've realised that my physical and mental state has deteriorated in line with my hormone levels going up the spout. Realising that I'm having mild hallucinations again (stuff moving in the corner of my vision when there's nothing there, some very pretty but not real rainbow flashes on the locus of my windscreen wipers) was a bit of a worry. Still, my concentration is good and I've not got brain fog, so that's nice.

Rich B wrote: Thu Mar 28, 2019 8:56 am

Nefarious wrote: Thu Mar 28, 2019 7:34 am And therein lies the problem.

"Happy" isn't a destination that you can aim for, then sit back contented for the rest of your days - it's a transient state that happens incidentally on the way to somewhere else.

errr, yes it is...

https://goo.gl/maps/jXK6kQ2jKDm

Suspicious number of churches in the vicinity.

Jimmy Choo wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 12:46 pm

DeskJockey wrote: Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:29 am The prodding was self inflicted, Mrs Choo asked her to do it. I think the outcome was worth it though.

Not being dead is rather good and I highly recommend it. I don't recommend either having or being prodded in your necrotic appendix.

I've realised that my physical and mental state has deteriorated in line with my hormone levels going up the spout. Realising that I'm having mild hallucinations again (stuff moving in the corner of my vision when there's nothing there, some very pretty but not real rainbow flashes on the locus of my windscreen wipers) was a bit of a worry. Still, my concentration is good and I've not got brain fog, so that's nice.

We like you not being dead too.