Woman

[Gavin]

Last time I was dumped I am not sure I even had a mobile and Whatsapp didn't exist. I think her mate told my mate to tell me!

Sounds like she wasn't the one and althouh you will likely feel a bit down regardless as rejection is crap, as others have said, you are a high flyer single man who now has time to go round car shopping! Nice date with Jobbo to go round the flash dealers!

[Shlergen]

I've been with mine far too long (since uni), so will remain in fantasy land that if she ever leaves me I can download Grindr and get bummed. Sorry had a Phil Schofield moment.

Surely a good chance to dip your wick without worries other than a bowt of the yid. Is speed / slow dating still a thing?

[Jobbo]

Did you meet your current partner through dating apps?

Yes, on Tinder. I think it’s quite an honest app, or at least it was in 2017 - you both like each other’s photo and short bio enough to allow you to message each other. Basically like real life except widening your social circle.

I suspect 7 years’ development and monetising has changed it slightly but at the time it felt quite natural.

[dinny_g]

I bumped into an old mate recently whose marriage ended and has been hitting up Tinder. He’s having a great time with it.

He basically described it as hook up app. Swipes till he finds someone that’s a match. They go on a date which is usually drinks in a bar, coffees etc, then second date is in one of their houses. Food, wine, Sex ensues.

[240PP]

What a shitter. Over WhatsApp is a bit out of order too, depending on the longevity. I’d echo much of the above advice: new car, hit the dating apps and go bang some strange.

I used Bumble over Tinder but they’re much the same. No nightmare stories from my time (heard plenty), go knock yourself out

[Jimmy Choo]

Bumble has got me more dates, Tinder is a wretched hive of scum and villainy. I've only had one match on Hinge and it's got me into my current relationship and she seems remarkably sane by my standards.

Sorry to hear it's gone to shit, Ian.

[Carlos]

It's important to remember it's ok to be single as well. You're not defined by being in a relationship.

When my wife leaves me as I'm a dickhead rather than berating me for it I'm going solo for a bit.

[Gavster]

I bumped into an old mate recently whose marriage ended and has been hitting up Tinder. He’s having a great time with it.

He basically described it as hook up app. Swipes till he finds someone that’s a match. They go on a date which is usually drinks in a bar, coffees etc, then second date is in one of their houses. Food, wine, Sex ensues.

I always banked on the third date because it was more predictable. I'd do evening drinks or food on a first date. If that that went well, then I'd arrange a quick daytime coffee somewhere in the next day or two for the second date. Third date would be evening again and guaranteed action every single time.

The whole process of matching, texting, arranging dates etc is still a pita and casual hookups do get quite boring after a while.

You can see why gay guys have it so easy when it comes to casaul sex. None of that planning, schmoozing or 2nd/3rd date strategy is needed. Simply match on an app, get their address, then whizz in and out quicker than you can get a pizza delivered. The other person's name, a sense of trust or feeling a spark are completely unnecessary details

[Mito Man]

Hmm, maybe I should bat for the other side

[dinny_g]

I bumped into an old mate recently whose marriage ended and has been hitting up Tinder. He’s having a great time with it.

He basically described it as hook up app. Swipes till he finds someone that’s a match. They go on a date which is usually drinks in a bar, coffees etc, then second date is in one of their houses. Food, wine, Sex ensues.

I always banked on the third date because it was more predictable. I'd do evening drinks or food on a first date. If that that went well, then I'd arrange a quick daytime coffee somewhere in the next day or two for the second date. Third date would be evening again and guaranteed action every single time.

The whole process of matching, texting, arranging dates etc is still a pita and casual hookups do get quite boring after a while.

You can see why gay guys have it so easy when it comes to casaul sex. None of that planning, schmoozing or 2nd/3rd date strategy is needed. Simply match on an app, get their address, then whizz in and out quicker than you can get a pizza delivered. The other person's name, a sense of trust or feeling a spark are completely unnecessary details

Not being familiar with Online Dating, I presume there's specific key words to look for for this kind of hook-up. The women my mate's been with certainly aren't looking for anything serious.

[Ascender]

I bumped into an old mate recently whose marriage ended and has been hitting up Tinder. He’s having a great time with it.

He basically described it as hook up app. Swipes till he finds someone that’s a match. They go on a date which is usually drinks in a bar, coffees etc, then second date is in one of their houses. Food, wine, Sex ensues.

I always banked on the third date because it was more predictable. I'd do evening drinks or food on a first date. If that that went well, then I'd arrange a quick daytime coffee somewhere in the next day or two for the second date. Third date would be evening again and guaranteed action every single time.

The whole process of matching, texting, arranging dates etc is still a pita and casual hookups do get quite boring after a while.

You can see why gay guys have it so easy when it comes to casaul sex. None of that planning, schmoozing or 2nd/3rd date strategy is needed. Simply match on an app, get their address, then whizz in and out quicker than you can get a pizza delivered. The other person's name, a sense of trust or feeling a spark are completely unnecessary details

I just read that part and can imagine you selling the "Gavster System" to desperate men and having seminars where they can pay for your dating secrets.

[Gavster]

I bumped into an old mate recently whose marriage ended and has been hitting up Tinder. He’s having a great time with it.

He basically described it as hook up app. Swipes till he finds someone that’s a match. They go on a date which is usually drinks in a bar, coffees etc, then second date is in one of their houses. Food, wine, Sex ensues.

I always banked on the third date because it was more predictable. I'd do evening drinks or food on a first date. If that that went well, then I'd arrange a quick daytime coffee somewhere in the next day or two for the second date. Third date would be evening again and guaranteed action every single time.

The whole process of matching, texting, arranging dates etc is still a pita and casual hookups do get quite boring after a while.

You can see why gay guys have it so easy when it comes to casaul sex. None of that planning, schmoozing or 2nd/3rd date strategy is needed. Simply match on an app, get their address, then whizz in and out quicker than you can get a pizza delivered. The other person's name, a sense of trust or feeling a spark are completely unnecessary details

Not being familiar with Online Dating, I presume there's specific key words to look for for this kind of hook-up. The women my mate's been with certainly aren't looking for anything serious.

It’s an interesting point and I wonder if age has anything to do with it - how old was your mate? My last bout of online dating was 2020 and 2021 when I was 42/43. I had a friend who was (I think) about 30 at the same time and he seemed to regualrly hookup on first dates. I tried it a few times and it never worked out. Second dates very occasionally did for me, but never first. Or maybe he’s simply better looking than me

[dinny_g]

He's mid 40's with greying hair and a significant paunch. I don't want to sound gay or nothin' but you should have a lot more luck than him

[V8Granite]

(1980s schoolyard)

Dinny is gay for Gav!

(1980s schoolyard)

Dave!

[dinny_g]

[nuttinnew]

I don't want to sound gay or nothin'

Of course not, you fancy women just as much as the next man.

[nuttinnew]

hoping it’s nothing to do with not having a car ..

At least she couldn't take it when she went;

"Did you marry him for his money?"
"No. I divorced him for it".

[nuttinnew]

Is this the right thread for this? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruce_effect

[Jobbo]

I don't want to sound gay or nothin'

Of course not, you fancy women just as much as the next man.

[tim]

Women are like socks, you have to change them once in a while.

(if my current g/f is reading this, jks obvs)