“We’re not doing presents for Valentines”

[Explosive Newt]

Was an obvious trap

[dinny_g]

“If we can’t be open and honest love…”

Best of luck

[jamcg]

Never done valentines, never will. Once you’ve worked in a supermarket and sold the over commercialised tat it looses all meaning

[240PP]

We decided a couple of years ago that we wouldn’t really do Valentines Day. Just a card, that’s it. I received a WhatsApp LAST NIGHT ‘Can’t wait to give you your present, you’ll love it, no pressure etc etc’. I don’t think she’s joking either.

I actually don’t feel any pressure. We had an agreement.

[Rich B]

Was an obvious trap

[duncs500]

Never miss the opportunity to use this meme!

Cards only for us, possibly a meal before we had a child. I don't think ever presents from what I can recall, possibly some flowers some years. We tend to celebrate our anniversary more.

[16vCento]

My wife bought one for me and our little boy, but put them somewhere SO safe, that she lost them.

I feel better about the cards I bought from Card Factory now

After 18 years you'd think we'd have given up by now.

[Beany]

Thankfully my hand never plays such mindgames with me.

[Gavster]

My oh “what is valentines?”

[ZedLeg]

We don’t do it because it’s my birthday in 3 days and I don’t want anything to pull focus

[Carlos]

"We" don't by each other Valentine's Day presents but I get her something small each year as I'll never hear the end the of it if she did

This year it's a personalised mug and new flights for her darts

[Explosive Newt]

Absolute disaster.

Me last week - are we doing anything for Valentines?
Her - I just sent £50 to the DEC for Turkey so I'm skint for the month.

Fair enough. Card purchased, nothing more thought about it.

This morning she has gone off for her swim and I awake to find 2 cards and a box of chocs.
Arse.
Emergency trip to the shops for a gift. Back home just before her fortunately.

She reveals she got me a subscription to "that car magazine you like" (evo) which cost £60 and my £25 gift seems paltry in comparison.

Now she's in a huff. Buying a second emergency gift will not assuague this but not buying one will be worse...

[duncs500]

I don't envy you.

[Beany]

Yeah, see that sort of - and no offence to your respective other halves - fucking idiocy has caused me to end relationships. More broadly than that, the whole 'hint hint' or 'reverse psychology' way of talking that people have, who aren't on the spectrum. "What do you want to do this weekend" "Oh nothing" Cool thinks I, a quiet weekend of chilling and chatting bollocks in front of the telly.

Then gurning that we aren't doing 'something'.

I'm fairly good at reading people, but I'm not psychic.

I have no time for it at all these days.

Go out with someone aspergery, and "I don't want anything for valentines day" and "I'm fine doing nothing, it's been a long week" actually means it.

[Rich B]

You've always got to factor in that women are inherently mental. I don't even think they mean to do it, but they seems to have a belief, and a never ending faith in that belief, that men somehow know when they are pretending and when they mean it.

Can you imagine a man sending out another man back out to get a last minute present because the value of the present received was different!??

Always err on the side of caution. Always assume they are mental.

[duncs500]

Yeah, see that sort of - and no offence to your respective other halves - fucking idiocy has caused me to end relationships. More broadly than that, the whole 'hint hint' or 'reverse psychology' way of talking that people have, who aren't on the spectrum. "What do you want to do this weekend" "Oh nothing" Cool thinks I, a quiet weekend of chilling and chatting bollocks in front of the telly.

Then gurning that we aren't doing 'something'.

I'm fairly good at reading people, but I'm not psychic.

I have no time for it at all these days.

Go out with someone aspergery, and "I don't want anything for valentines day" and "I'm fine doing nothing, it's been a long week" actually means it.

I don't know how long newt has been with his partner, but usually the solution to this is to get to know the person a bit. That way you know what to expect and what they mean when they say something different.

Seems a bit extreme to sack it all off rather than just making a few mistakes, learning from them, and then ending up in a relatively harmonious relationship? I dunno, maybe I'm DIW.

[Mito Man]

You've always got to factor in that women are inherently mental. I don't even think they mean to do it, but they seems to have a belief, and a never ending faith in that belief, that men somehow know when they are pretending and when they mean it.

Can you imagine a man sending out another man back out to get a last minute present because the value of the present received was different!??

Always err on the side of caution. Always assume they are mental.

Well this one time I dated a guy.....

[dinny_g]

Our canteen has Beef Tacos with Refried Beans for Lunch…

There’s no romantics left anymore

[Rich B]

You've always got to factor in that women are inherently mental. I don't even think they mean to do it, but they seems to have a belief, and a never ending faith in that belief, that men somehow know when they are pretending and when they mean it.

Can you imagine a man sending out another man back out to get a last minute present because the value of the present received was different!??

Always err on the side of caution. Always assume they are mental.

Well this one time I dated a guy.....

its got to be easier than dating women tbf.

[Gavster]

You've always got to factor in that women are inherently mental. I don't even think they mean to do it, but they seems to have a belief, and a never ending faith in that belief, that men somehow know when they are pretending and when they mean it.

I think they have an unshakeable, subconscious romantic belief that men will act in a generous, chivalrous manner, regardless of logic or spoken agreements. When we agree not to do presents, they understand it on an intellectual level. However, subconsciously, they're still dreaming of waking up to a 'surprise' of flowers, presents and indulgence.

Meanwhile we're totally logical and binary about the whole thing.